This guy is so unorganized he constantly lets deadlines slip and screws up the simplest long term plans. Listen, I’ll be the first to say that a guy’s relationship with his mom is one of the more important factors to look at in a relationship, but…if he’s going to mommy for input on every single decision he makes in his life, it shows a lack of character on his part – and a danger sign for the future of a relationship he’s in. Think about it this way: he committed himself to someone to be with her for the rest of their lives, and yet here he is… If that’s how he treats commitment, why would you want him in your life?Turned out that he was actually a nice guy, and that he was just nervous at first.He was just trying to impress a bit coz he liked me.The irony is that they are NOT even "all that." Hardly. When i first met my boyfriend, i too thought he was a player. So at that meeting I was cautious, and a little bit guarded, although I still had fun. I didn't even know he text me that night and thanked me, I just read it the next morning and was surprised.He asked for a second date, and since I was on the fence about him, I gave him another chance.This guy thinks “privilege” is a dirty word and that all feminist women are man haters who want to enslave men. His gender-selfishness extends into every aspect of his life, including probably the bedroom.Oh, and he stares at every woman’s ass as she walks down the street by him. This guy is pathologically afraid of putting a plan down in stone and sticking to it.
After we became exclusive, i told him that I thought he was a player the first time i met him.Out there in the dating world, it’s easy to run into the full spectrum of players, jerks, and flat out a-holes.Sometimes it can be difficult to know what kind of guys to avoid and what kind of guys you want to be with, spend your time on and invest your emotions in.Even if it's a fake it til you make it thing, from the outside, you can't really know whether somebody is confident & a big braggart or covering up insecurities. When I 1st laid eyes on the man who is now my husband my initial thought was "ooh, yummy, player." He is gorgeous, was well dressed & was working the room we were in like the professional salesman he is. Thought he'd be fun to date in the short term & we could both have a good time in the short term.Either way, there is a certain swagger to genuine players as opposed to garden variety jerks. That wasn't always the case though, but after you encounter enough of them, you know what to look for. they have a quiet confidence and don't need to go around flaunting their accomplishments to others (or bragging how successful they are with women or how many "options" they have.) Arghh... At the point I made these assumptions I had yet to even speak to him. Months later when I told him I thought he looked like a player I watched lightbulbs go off. Then you combine their guards being up from all the sex emails, and you get overly serious and rigid interaction. The same qualities a woman usually appreciates in real life, are the things that put her on edge online.