For example, a child who is scared of the dark because they think that the boogeyman will get them, will eventually reject this belief when they learn that the boogeyman is not real.
But despite the fact that they no longer believe in the boogeyman, in the subconscious mind of the child, darkness and fear have now been associated together.
For example, since you now believe that you are good for nothing you expect to fail, and so you miss out on many opportunities in life because you did not go after them.
Or if you do experience some kind of failure in your life, your subconscious feelings of inadequacy are reactivated which then causes you to feel like you’re good for nothing, just like how you were made to feel as a child.
The feeling of inadequacy tells you that you have a negative subconscious belief which makes you feel as though there is something wrong with you.
This feeling also tells you that you might be lacking a certain skill in your life, which if you learned how to do, would positively benefit your life.
Also remember that although adults are far more critical than children of the information they hear from others, they are not immune to negative comments.
Or you may suddenly find yourself trembling with fear, even though consciously you feel that there is nothing to be afraid of.
Essentially, what this means is that your subconscious emotional memories can dominate your conscious thought processes, by causing you to feel a negative emotion when you are trying to feel a positive emotion.
As a result, this child may continue to fear the dark into their teens or even as an adult.
This exact same principle applies to all our childhood experiences, such as those where we were told by others that we weren’t good enough.