The thrill and excitement of a younger woman is so compelling. Someone who will appreciate what my age and wisdom brings to the partnership.Those rare gems who value women with age and experience are just that – rare! I am happier than I have ever been and what I truly have learned is that I don’t need a man to make me complete. We have been divorced for 2 years and although it saddens me that my family has been broken apart, I am happy that my ex and I have have managed to be civil enough to make it okay for the kids.Here is what I have found: For single men the options are plentiful. It seems that the breakdown of available women fall into the following categories: 1.We have all heard about how easy it is for a man to start dating in his fifties and how there are plenty of women to choose from. Early 30’s and never been married – these women must have “daddy issues”.
I was on a date with a guy who confessed that on more than one occasion women met with him and within minutes made up an excuse to leave. Or writing your first name with his on a cocktail napkin, and deciding whether or not to hyphenate your last name with his. Dating, especially in middle age, means a higher likelihood of navigating around those other littler people in our lives who make getting to destinations on time more challenging and keeping our dates more exacting. He will tell you who he is during those first few meetings. Split the check so he expects nothing from you in return? Refrain from theatrics if a relationship doesn’t develop as you had hoped. Facts that can be found on your driver’s license reveal little about a person, and will do nothing toward bringing you closer together. You know the basics about each other, but now is the time to strut your stuff. I know many city dwellers that have yet to meet The One, and have widened their search to include areas well outside their densely populated neighborhood. The decisions we make are personal, and we wouldn’t want anyone undermining our choices. There is such a difference between what is available for men and woman. What I find most interesting at this point is the whole dating scene. You want your date to get to know you—the real you. Remember, you’re wonderful, even if the situation in which you temporarily find yourself is less than that. What goes around comes around, and I wouldn’t want someone treating me so rudely. However, there is no excuse for no-shows, even when kids are to blame. You’re an independent contractor, not a general contractor, so stop managing others. Keep your conversation light, and leave your baggage at home. They are only the situations with which you find yourself coping now, and aren’t defining. The impression you leave at the end of the date is as, if not more, important as the one you make at the beginning. Your date doesn’t know you well, and likely carries the same insecurities you do about whether or not he is liked. Besides, you never know if your date has a friend in mind that might be just right for you. Wear age appropriate clothing, and clothes that are comfortable so you can focus on your conversation rather than fussing with a top that slips down to reveal too much cleavage, pants that restrict the circulation in your legs, and shoes that make the walk to your car feel like . I want to feel good when I’m with my date, and I want to enjoy our time together without feeling as though I’m about to fall into a food coma or heave. I have never fled a date (yet) even when there have been times I wanted to. Any good relationship will be a two-way street, so do your portion of the driving. Those photos on Conan were always super ugly anyway. My date even mimicked the eye movements of a frog as he rattled off the punch line (thankfully there were no accompanying tongue gestures). Only the frog got any action that evening, and I am happy to say it (and my date) lived happily ever after and were never to be heard from again. Planning is key, especially when dealing with children, and it is important to be flexible. Remember, the only person you can change is yourself, so don’t take anyone on as a project.