Effective dating tips for introverts

You're at your new next-door neighbor Sharon's party, and once again, you don't know where to put yourself. She looks relaxed as she chats comfortably with someone you don't know. I also feel this way when I meet someone new at a Shabbat meal or go on a blind date. Most introverts prefer small, intimate get-togethers, have a few close friends rather than a large social circle, and sometimes seem aloof or quiet in a group or with someone they don't know well.

Your smile is plastered on, and you're counting the minutes until you can make a polite exit. It may take an introvert a while to feel comfortable conversing with a new person, or to open up to someone they're just getting to know.

He didn't want to make his date responsible to manage the conversation.

We advised Andy that this happens to most people on the first few dates, until the two people know each other better.

They've been very helpful to someone we'll call Andy, who told us that he had only recently started dating and was very nervous about it.

He felt he couldn't come up with answers to his date's questions fast enough and felt that his conversation was wooden.

We suggested that Andy rehearse for dates to feel more confident about going out.

We had him prepare a list of topics to talk about on the first two dates.

and it takes you a moment to realize he's kind of cute.

This awareness made him more confident about his ability to become a good conversationalist.

Andy also told us that when there were lulls in the conversation, he felt awkward and at a loss for new subjects to introduce.

They worry about keeping a dating partner interested and developing a meaningful relationship.

These are legitimate concerns for introverted daters.