I’m a believer that couples can have independent timetables from those stated above depending on their circumstances, but partners need to have a mutual agreement and understanding about the future timeline of the relationship in order to survive- and that agreement needs to be upheld.However, if you are asking yourself “when is he going to propose already?! You’ve probably picked up on an inequity in he relationship, and one (or more) of your needs is not being met.Is there a difference between couples that met recently and those in Huston’s study?Currently I co-run a longitudinal study of marriage and family development, started in 2008 and ongoing, and the answers couples gave me about their engagement ranged from several months to several years.Only time will tell how modern marriages are growing and changing from those started long ago.What do these timelines mean for you still waiting for your man to propose?
It might hurt to be alone, but it’s better for you in the long run than being in an unhappy marriage.
Before bringing up the proposal conversation, ask yourself these four questions: Can you accept your relationship as it is, and remove/ give-up the expectation of marriage?
Many women are interested in getting married simply because it’s validated by society, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a ring in order to be happy and have children.
Many couples are choosing to cohabit as an alternative to or dress rehearsal for marriage.
Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.