So why can’t I find a lady here in Seattle, where women are as omnipresent as the minarets of the mosques that dominate the skylines of Pakistani towns and villages.
Growing up in a society like Pakistan’s may put me at a disadvantage.
There’s in fact a phrase in Urdu quite famous in guys of my age group: , meaning ‘if a girl smiles at you, for sure she’s interested.’ Then what follows is a never-ending series of romantic text messages and long conversations in hushed whispers over the phone after midnight when everybody is asleep. Marriages are mostly arranged, but recent years have seen a tremendous increase in what we call love marriages.I’ve had experiences with a few women where I thought we’d hit it off, but too many …istans in me (my home province in Pakistan is called Balochistan) seemed to scare them off.It can be hard to convince them that I enjoy a glass of beer as much as I like a juicy bacon cheeseburger.But since I moved to the Seattle area from Pakistan two years ago, I’ve been in a similar situation when it comes to my romantic life. Seattle isn’t a town of nuns and I’m sure not a Brahmachari who lives a life of self-imposed celibacy.Much like that guy in that restaurant who can’t get the food he wants so badly, for that whole time I have not been able to get a date. There could be more than one explanation for it: It could be what many call Seattle Freeze.