Of course, there’s always the chance that I’m (shocker) wrong – maybe eight weeks is far too early to call it – maybe I’m going to miss out on swathes of wonderful, slightly indecisive men who need longer than a couple of months to decide if they want to be in a relationship.They’ll end up with women much more nurturing and patient than I, who realised that all they needed was a bit of time and gentle guidance.I’m not judging – I can see how easy it is to get into that situation.Earlier this year, The New York Times published an article called “The End of Courtship?As a dating coach, I'm a big believer in going on lots of dates with lots of people to see who’s out there.But once you're coupled up, it's pretty well-understood that it's time to scale back your online dating life in favor of ramping up your offline dating life.
However, if anyone refers to me as his girlfriend in front of him, the colour drains from his face.
The thing is, you can make any excuse you like when you really fancy, or even love someone.
“They’re still getting over their ex,” “they just need more time,” or (ugh) “they’re scared of commitment,” but the fact is when someone meets the right person, they can’t propose marriage, or a joint rental agreement quick enough.
Maybe I’m being old fashioned and just plain unrealistic to think that I should wait for someone who’s actually interested enough to want to chase me, who knows for certain from the out that they want a relationship with me – and who doesn’t need talking into the bloody thing.
Or maybe I’m just particularly unlucky when it comes to men.